I believe that my first 365 days of matrimony have been significant. I’d like to share what this first year has taught me about my relationship, myself and marriage in general.
First, I've learned that being married is far less stressful than wedding planning -- at least for me.The process of making decisions for the huge event was a little... much at times. Looking back, I've realized that I didn't need to work myself up over things so much. Being married, while full of decisions and tasks, is much more mundane than planning to get married ever was -- and thank goodness for that.
Another key lesson I learned has to do with my perception of marriage and how that's changed.I find myself thinking critically about my choices as a wife -- how my actionsaffect my husband, how I can communicate better, talk more gently, be the person I want to be. I now feel a deeper responsibility to just be better. Showing up for my partner, and our marriage, as my best self matters far more now than it ever did before. Since, of course, we're in this for life and all.
Finally, I've learned that while I do feel a sense of responsibility to myself and my husband to continue to be a better person, marriage hasn't really changed our daily lives all that much.
We still go out for drinks with friends, spend lazy Saturday mornings in our pajamas, and take turns making each other coffee. Yet, even when we do these everyday things, we do them as husband and wife.
I love being able to call the man I've chosen by his new, shiny title, and likewise being his Mrs. Sometimes, hearing the still new-to-us labels spoken aloud (like, when we introduce each other now as husband and wife) takes me by surprises. In a good way, of course. When I hear those words, I feel grown up in a way I never have before.
I can only hope that, when we're celebrating our own 50th anniversary, I still feel this joy and satisfaction, even after the word "wife" has been uttered hundreds of times. As it stands now, I can't imagine ever getting tired of hearing it.